Most of us do not talk to our best friends the way we talk to ourselves. We wouldn’t be saying such things as, “You are a failure,” and “You never do anything right.”
What makes it difficult to be our own friend is what the famous psychiatrist, Carl Jung, said about himself: “What if I discover that the least amongst them all, the poorest of all the beggars, the most impudent of all the offenders, the very enemy himself – that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness – that I myself am the enemy who must be loved – what then?”
as our best friend would.
Unfortunately, when we do not love ourselves, we act in ways that make it difficult to accept ourselves. “We cover our insecurities by broadcasting our successes, criticizing whoever is present, becoming overextended and unable to say ‘No,’ criticizing ourselves to get sympathy, taking no risks that might fail…”1
Dr. William E. Austin is a licensed psychotherapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree. He is a therapist with Tidewater Pastoral Counseling Services . He is well known for his warmth and sense of humor. His book, Creating Our Safe Place - Articles on Healthy Relationships, can be purchased through www.amazon.com.
Tidewater Pastoral Counseling: 623-2700
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