One would think that making alone time would be something all of us would do, but many of us find it uncomfortable. Could this be why when we do have a moment for ourselves we fill it with the noise of television or we leave our cellular phone on?
we tend to run our lives on the surface and, consequently,
can be blindsided by the emotions that are within us.
When we do not make quiet time for ourselves, we tend to run our lives on the surface and, consequently, can be blindsided by the emotions that are within us. This reminds me of when my dad would take my brother and me fishing. Sometimes, walking by the lake, Dad would find a flat rock and skim it across the water. We would have a contest to see how many skips we could make before the rock sank. For many of us our lives are like this illustration. We bounce on the surface from one thing to another, not making time for reflection. Then some event happens and suddenly we are aware of the emotions that lie beneath the surface.
The power of silence or solitude is a wonderful way of getting to know ourselves and what goes on within us. Without quiet time for reflection, writes noted priest and author Henri Nouwen, â€śour relationship with others easily becomes needy and greedy, sticky and clinging, dependent and sentimental, exploitative and parasitic, because without the solitude of heart, we cannot experience the others as different from ourselves but only as people who can be used for the fulfillment of our own, often hidden needs.â€ť
Recent studies have shown even more benefits of â€śalone timeâ€ť including lower blood pressure, higher mental functioning, enhanced creativity, and a more positive attitude. A study of teenagers discovered that the most talented and gifted among them actually demand more alone time. Make some alone time for yourself to allow your sometimes over-stretched daily life to take on a more relaxed shape.
Dr. William E. Austin is a licensed psychotherapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree. He is a therapist with Tidewater Pastoral Counseling Services . He is well known for his warmth and sense of humor. His book, Creating Our Safe Place - Articles on Healthy Relationships, can be purchased through www.amazon.com.
Tidewater Pastoral Counseling: 623-2700
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