It was in the year 2000 when the movie “Pay It Forward” came out.  I have treasured that concept ever since. “Pay it forward” is about a choice, whereas “pay it back” suggests an obligation. 

Paying it forward becomes a philosophy.

When I was in college, a friend gave me what today would perhaps be the equivalent of fifty dollars. The note attached read, “This is for you, just because I have it and you don’t.” It was just before Christmas break, and I had no money for gifts. All those years ago, with that fifty dollars, I was able to buy several gifts. I never forgot how grateful I was and how I wanted to be able to be the giver someday.

Like most of us, I love getting presents.  I have come to love giving more.  And I am aware of what a gift it is to be able to give. 

Late in life, my Mum would ask me not to buy her anything. I could not do that. Not buy Mum a gift for Christmas and birthdays?  Now I understand her sentiment, but then I continued to give, and she was always gracious in receiving.

In her final years, I called Mum almost every night, and that was the most valuable gift—for both of us!  Life has a way of letting us know what is truly valuable.  


My favorite holiday does not involve gifts. Thanksgiving is the equivalent of the Pay It Forward philosophy. When we can focus on how fortunate we are—especially when we are surrounded by loved ones, that is a gift for our hearts and souls.

Three generations gather around the table, where my favorite memory of each year is celebrated. This year the new memory has a name: Claire.  One and a half years old, Claire is my grandniece, who I will see in person for the first time.  

It is time that we concentrate on what is right in our lives.  I love the saying that we need to be the change we want to see in the world.  Giving thanks is just the beginning.  I believe it embodies Paying It Forward.