Saturday, December 4th, 2021

P Shopper Columns


The excitement of changes that bring challenge and satisfaction is both thrilling and troubling. We have to acknowledge these emotions while we make our best decisions. It reminds me of jugglers. While focusing on one decision at a time, there is often another one or two waiting for attention.

That is where I am now. Exciting? Yes! Easy? Not so much.

It gives me comfort knowing I am not alone. In fact, is there anyone who has not been, is not now or is not about to make important decisions?

A friend asked me about a recent decision. “Are you rooting for Tom Brady or New England?”
That was easy for me, even though I am from New England. “Tom Brady.  No hesitation.” I had not even considered there was another choice.  Good to know.
If we know what our base is about, decisions are easier than if we have too many conflicting elements. For me, people come first.

Making a decision
is not rocket science.
It is finding the courage to decide what we really want,
then having the courage
to do it!
Change is not our enemy; change is the breath of life.

Some put money first, others future goals, some careers. We each have our own priorities, and we need to be aware of what they really are.  

I decided to offer my wonderful building by the water tower at the intersection of North Battlefield and Kempsville Road for sale, knowing that might involve relocating.   It was a big decision, but made while the timing is right.

That opens the option of buying another building that will accommodate both The Shopper and my second avocation – the Country Store/Unicorn Consignments option. Timing was important when I learned that The Red Chair consignment store will close in December. Karen Marable is retiring but will also give me great advice.  She has set the success standard for that business!

Over the years, while the publishing business has been my main focus, some of my best decisions have involved finding great people to run my consignment stores.

Making a decision is not rocket science.  It is finding the courage to decide what we really want, then having the courage to do it! Change is not our enemy; change is the breath of life.  And I am so grateful it is not rocket science!

Just by writing this down to share with you, I realize how grateful I am to be ready to make each decision, trusting everything is evolving as it should.  
Stay tuned.

Jean Loxley-Barnard has been a writer all her life and studied both sociology and psychology at George Washington University where she earned a B.A. Her company, The Shopper, Inc., encompasses all the Loxley-Barnard family publications - The Shopper Magazines and Doctor to Doctor Magazine. She has been in the advertising, consulting and publishing business for 39 years.